Confidence Kills... Just Like Ebola.
In honor of September 11th, I think I'll do something a little bit more serious today. Let's talk about confidence. Inner confidence and outer confidence. What it means to be yourself and how do you get to a point where you're truly happy. First things first, you should never get to a point where you're satisfied with yourself or your life. The moment that happens is the moment you can kiss everything goodbye. Literally shove that mentality out the backdoor. We are people and we strive to grow and learn from others as well as the world around us.
Inner confidence comes from being secure with who you are. Maybe you have a big nose, a strong forehead, a small dick - whatever. Turn those flaws into something you can be proud of. Like I stated in an earlier blog post, there will always be stereotypes and hate and better for you to accept it and move on with your life now than have it tear you down. I know it's easier said than done, but you have to try. I hate these people that bitch and complain about themselves and they aren't doing anything to (1) better their situation out or (2) fix it. If you don't like your tits, book that plastic surgery appointment and get them fixed - just don't black market that process and then we have to see your goofy business on Botched. Please and thank you.
Outer confidence is the confidence you project to the outside world and your peers around you. Now people call me a bitch all the time, because I walk around like I own the street. I used to think it was an issue, but I've come to realize that it's just not my problem. It took me a long time and I've been through hell and back (high school) to get to a point where I can strut my ass down Park Avenue and who is anyone to determine how I should be or act? Just to make the person feel more comfortable? I don't think so. It's a dog eat dog world out there and better to get to the top of the food chain than be someone's leftovers. That's not cute. How you get there is being confident. Knowing what you're good at and using it to your advantage. Maybe you love to argue? Go to Harvard and get that law degree. Maybe you like to eat? Book that one way ticket to Paris, find a rat and Ratatouille those dreams up. Maybe you love cupcakes? Bitch sign up for Cupcake Wars and go in hard and win the damn thing. Confidence is infectious like Ebola. It'll kill you if you aren't careful. You'll be working in that job and the new assistant comes in with her full-on confidence wearing her new outfit she bought at the Barney's Sample Sale last week (you better step your game up), otherwise you will be taken out with last week's luncheon from Vaucluse.
Now there's something I want to make very clear. There is a fine line between being a bitch for the sake of meanness and then being one for the sake of not letting people walk all over you. It's a balance and everyone has a different balance on how they take their bitchiness. (I personally like mine over easy with a side of Prada) If you want to be successful, you need to be selfish. Selfish with your time, selfish with who you surround yourself with, and selfish with your attitude. You need to know what you want out of life and how to get it. Once you've figured that out you beat it until it's raw. Don't let anyone fool you and tell you it will be easy. NOTHING in this life is easy or free. Being ruthless and learning patience are the two key concepts of success. If you can master both, than it will happen. That's the only way. I mean sure you could try and cut corners, but let's be honest if you're not sucking off someone at E! you just won't make it that way. If you're unhappy with your work situation or your image, then the only person who is going to make things happen for yourself is you. No one else.
There's only one life in this world and that's the life you envision for yourself and make happen. I hope this post helped you and if you have any insecurities or are wary of going after your dreams, don't be! There's an entire world out there that is doing the same thing and I want you to be on top, so we can all be successful. If you need any further help or have any questions on the topic, email email@example.com and I'll assist you one on one with personal confidence boost training. Thanks for reading!